Relationship Roadmap 3

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Relationship Roadmap 3

Shopping with your love, wow I know if your going shopping to a mall, or outlets stores , or any type of multiple shops. It so easy to turn this experience into a fight or come off looking like a jerk. She’s going to look at things she may want, things that she don’t need and everything else under the sun. So be comfortable, not sloppy but as casual comfortable as you can be. Just anticipate your going to be board, standing, giving your option on a lot of things she won’t even by, and holding her things. But don’t look how you feel, put a smile on it and don’t be super sarcastic. Eat before you go, isn’t a bad Ideas, because the food courts may have good food,  it keeps you there longer and the longer you stay the more she thinks about shopping. After she eats she is going to want to look at a few more things before you guys leave. While you’re getting ready to heads out, listen to some upbeat music, like  the morning you listen to some thing with a good beat and good songs.. you start of positive. This is exactly how you want to start off the day. Singing, dancing, kissing her as she passes by. What ever you need, put your self in the best mood as possible. On the car ride to Denny’s or where you guy decided to eat at. Also its a good idea to plan your escape, so earlier suggest she invite over her sister, friends, who ever. Just say , let’s have them over I’ll BBQ if you don’t know how to BBQ you need to learn and fast. You being good on the grill will get you out of a lot of things and get you praise for it, if your food taste good. Don’t get talked into going over their houses or meeting them at a restaurant. This could mean your out till you meet up with who ever she called. If your BBQ you have to prepare the food some need an hour marinade or rub, stopping by the grocery store for ingredients is not recommended. I’d get home first look and then say honey I thought we had what ever and your going to run to the Grocery store for it ..real quick. Remember she’s in a shopping mood you don’t want her to continue her urges in the grocery store. So now you have a timer on this day, go eat some food don’t prolong the stay, and be loving with her so she don’t punish you by keeping you there any longer than you guys have to be. Your cellphone apps may come in handy, sitting outside the waiting room. Just don’t load any thing that can’t be paused in an instant. She going to want your opinion and your attention at that moment. I’m sure you seen – any sit com  and the guy says the wrong thing, when asked how do I look. I hope you been telling her how beautiful she is multiple times a day every day. But not only saying it, tell her why in details. So when this moment arrives, you are prepared to give her an honest but flattering assment of the items she’s wearing. So you can tell her you love this part of her body and in that piece of clothing doesn’t highlight such part. Just be honest.. but not stupid and it a good time to make her feel good with a complement. And most of all enjoy being out with her, make the best of the situation. It’s not an ideal day for most men, but start off positive and just don’t bring your self down. Eat for energy and remember most of all… it’s for her and she likes spending time with your dumb ass. I know its crazy..but they do like us their not just to torching us.  So just have fun and its only a few hours, you can do this.

Till next time…tell her she’s later.beautiful every day and why..give details to what you like about her…it can help you out cropped-th-5.jpg

Relationship Roadmap 2

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Relationship Roadmap 2

Having weekends plans, this may get decided as early as the previous weekend. It may seem like just a casual night out, but be sure. Remember pay attention to your lover, if she not talking about it and getting an outfit prepared by Wednesday then maybe your right. But if she’s talking to her friends and wants to go over details. You might have to up your game. She is now building up this night in her head, and in her head everything is perfect. So now you have to try to make it a very special night. It’s not ever going to be perfect but you can put in effort to make it special. Get the vehicle cleaned and ready for you princesses carriage, have a music playlist of your guys songs the ballets work best. You have to look good, trim, man scape have an outfit ready, Cologne up. Ask foodies you don’t just use one sense to enjoy food and she going to use all her senses to enjoy you. You’ll look good, you’ll smell good, music will sound good , mints so you’ll taste good, hold hand(moisturizer early and often) you’ll feel good…. Its going to feel better later.. but for now. Little things matter so much, if you can get a dozen roses. This is the thought full part, you’re going to break them up to individual roses. I suggest those little clear tubes with water for the bottoms to keep them healthy. Now you have to get away and make it happen. Every place your going visit that evening and some stopping points are key (if you can talk someone into helping, you life will be better). Like give one to the restaurant, a little store you stop at for gum. I just suggest put little pit stops in thru the night. And you got its your going to need at least 10 pick up spots. 10 because the first is in the vehicle on her seat, with a nice cloth in a little basket would be golden. Now you need the establishments help, distributing these flowers. I suggest the new out-door shopping complexes are great, then you get there early and walk the shops. There usually lit romantically and she’ll notice tonight…ever so much. As she start getting roses..she’s going catch on quick so just a few shops. But you have to keep her on her toes, be creative. Like under a park bench, on a moon it stroll. At the movies the ticket seller hands over one with the tickets. Comedy club if you can get the comedian to give her one wow. its things like this that become unforgettable memories. I go a little further with a little love note or poem with each one of the roses. But remember to enjoy each other, don’t focus on the next flower destination. Look in her eyes when you talk, smile her, tell her how beautiful she is..because women get tired of hearing that. And what you did is replace all her preconceived notions, and expectations of this night and blew them away. The last and final rose’s should be in the bed room. It can be there in a vase, or you can turn toward her with it between your teeth. This I would suggest if you have music cued and dance with her in a moon or candle lit bedroom. It takes some effort but when you see her smile and give you that look..its a look of so much love and just auww….you know you just made her feel like the most special woman in the world. And other women will tell her, how lucky she is to have such a wonderful man. When women start picturing how she wants a thing to go and you have know idea, that’s dangerous. And most times she disappointed, and its a bad night. Having her collecting the flowers, like I said it takes her mind off the impossible and becomes a spontaneous, caring evening. And you’ll score big… Literally and figuratively. I suggest limit cell phone use, undivided attention. Bring it out for photos and that’s it, no checking in, posting, messages.. Tonight is about you two don’t let a phone ruin a special night.

OK till next time, keep reminding her how beautiful she is..and keep listing to her because there’s little bits of information in what she says and reacts to, it helps on what you can do next.

Relationship Roadmap 1

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Relationship Roadmap 1

Being in a relationship, It’s not easy, birds chirping, sun shinning, and everyone is dancing and singing, yeah. It takes work to keep a happy and healthy relationship. But if you just pay attention to your other half, then you will pick up on clues. They might not even know that their giving out, these are.. “helpful pieces of information”. If they are tired that’s easy. its stay home, get take out or home cooked meal.. if you can cook. Don’t try something new and mess it up when she is hungry and tired. That will put an end to the night real fast. So set a nice table, sit down and have a conversation . No devices, just one on one time, giving each other your undivided attention. Ask about her day and how such events made her feel. Just listen don’t be the hero. You ask.. is there anything you can do, if you really can do something to rectify the situation. There’s always situations, and she just wants confirmation from you. that you support her and her choice or decision. After dinner let her retreat to the living room while you take care of the dishes, left over’s, just all the dinner mess. Join her in the living room and give her a shoulder and back massage. Give her control of the remote..for the rest of the night. Yes you probably will watch reality TV, women yelling at each other. Women get worked up, watching these shows, it’s another clue. Talk to her about the show , whats getting her worked up, and her emotions. just her take on what she like and dislikes. Who and what is getting her worked up…just general information about the series. Just stay focused and hear her, pay attention to her issues. A lot of times they hit close to home, she may be giving you information on what her dislikes are and you now can work with that in the near future. Once again side with her about everything on these shows, just listen and agree. When you adjourned to the bed room, her being tired was a clue. No sex tonight, as you lay there keep communicating, talk about the tomorrow and your guys plans, things about the two of you. This shows and confirms that you two have a future together. You can hold her, spoon, cuddle, stroke her hair. Just no hanky panky stuff, if she not in the mood and you piss her off…all your doings tonight are lost. You’ll have plenty of time together for relations. one night of putting all of her feelings, issues, and emotions first..will go along way. Go to sleep and you will have embedded this night of selflessness into her memory even if its subconsciously. Putting her first and hearing her grievances and option’s is huge to women, the key word was hearing.

Till next time..show and let her know your love!